Reconnection & Intimacy Therapy in Los Gatos, California
You live together, share a life, maybe raise kids together, and somewhere along the way you started feeling more like roommates than partners.
The emotional or physical closeness that used to come easily now feels like something you have to schedule, or something neither of you brings up at all.
Signs you could benefit from reconnection & intimacy therapy in Los Gatos
Does any of this sound familiar?
You feel more like coworkers or roommates than partners
Physical intimacy has faded, and neither of you has said it out loud
You used to talk about everything, now conversation feels surface-level
You're not fighting, exactly, you're just distant
Life got busy, kids, work, responsibilities, and connection quietly slipped
You still love each other, but the "in love" feeling is hard to find right now
What if you could go from:
Feeling like roommates managing a household
→ To feeling like partners who actually want to be together
Avoiding the conversation about distance because it feels too big
→ To naming it together and actually working on it
Physical intimacy that feels obligatory or absent
→ To rebuilding closeness at a pace that feels safe for both of you
Assuming this is just what happens after years together
→ To actively choosing to reconnect instead of accepting the drift
None of this means you've done something wrong, or that the connection is gone for good. Distance that builds slowly, over years of busyness and small disconnections, can be understood and rebuilt just as gradually.
How reconnection & intimacy therapy in Los Gatos, California can help
Emotional and physical distance rarely happens all at once. It builds slowly, through years of prioritizing everything else, through small disconnections that never got repaired, through both partners quietly protecting themselves instead of reaching for each other.
The good news: if disconnection can build slowly, reconnection can too. It starts with understanding what changed and why, without shame, and then rebuilding closeness in small, real ways.
Research from the Gottman Institute has found that couples who intentionally prioritize small, consistent moments of connection see meaningfully stronger relationship satisfaction than those who wait for big romantic gestures to rebuild closeness.
This is especially common for couples raising young kids, where survival mode becomes the norm and connection quietly moves to the bottom of the list. Naming that out loud, without guilt, is often the first real step back toward each other.
What you'll gain from reconnection & intimacy therapy
Understanding what changed — see clearly how and why the distance happened, without blaming each other
A way back to each other — rebuild emotional intimacy in small, real steps rather than forcing a fix
A safe way to talk about physical intimacy — address this without shame, pressure, or avoidance
Feeling like partners again — move from managing a household together to actually wanting to be together
Tools to protect connection going forward — so you don't drift again once life gets busy
Renewed curiosity about each other — remember who your partner is now, not just who they were
What working together is really like
Step 1. We understand what changed, when the distance started, what's been avoided, what's been quietly protected.
Step 2. We rebuild emotional safety first, since real closeness, emotional or physical, depends on both partners feeling safe enough to be vulnerable again.
Step 3. We practice reconnecting in small, concrete ways in session, so it becomes a real, lived experience, not just something you're hoping will happen on its own.
What This Isn't
This isn't about forcing intimacy before either of you feels ready, or performing closeness so the relationship looks fine from the outside. It's about honestly understanding what created the distance, at a pace that actually feels safe, and choosing to close it together.
My approach to reconnection & intimacy therapy
I work from an EFT-informed and attachment-informed lens, which means we focus on rebuilding the emotional bond first, since physical intimacy and closeness naturally struggle when emotional safety feels uncertain.
We go at a pace that feels safe for both of you. This isn't about forcing intimacy or performing closeness, it's about genuinely finding your way back to each other.
What sessions with me actually look like
Understanding what changed and when, without shame or blame, so the distance actually starts to make sense instead of feeling random
EFT-informed work to rebuild emotional safety first, since real closeness, physical or emotional, depends on both partners feeling safe enough to be vulnerable again
Attachment-informed exploration of what each of you learned about closeness, touch, and connection growing up, and how that's shaping this relationship now
Practicing small, concrete moments of reconnection in session, so closeness becomes something you're actually experiencing together, not just something you're talking about
Frequently Asked Questions
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It's common, but that doesn't mean it has to stay that way. Distance can be actively addressed and reversed.
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Yes, at whatever pace feels comfortable and only if you are ready. We talk about it as part of the broader emotional connection, not in isolation.
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That's common too, and worth exploring together, since it usually means something important that hasn't been said yet.
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Couples sessions are $275 for 50 minutes. I'm a private-pay provider, meaning no diagnosis required and no insurance limits on your care. I provide a superbill for potential reimbursement.
Start reconnection & intimacy therapy in Los Gatos today
If you're ready to find your way back to each other, I'd love to connect. I offer a free 15-minute consultation so we can talk before you commit to anything.
Telehealth throughout California. Serving Los Gatos, Saratoga, Atherton, Menlo Park, Tiburon, Danville, Orinda, and the greater Bay Area.